A friend of mine and I recently hung out with a group of Olympian athletes in their early 20s, and by Olympian, we mean that they belonged on Mount Olympus. They had bodies of Greek gods – biceps that you just want to swing from, six-pack abs that you want to use as coffee tables in your living room. After the plethora of flabby and fluffy guys we’ve been dating in the past few months, we became obsessed, and for the first time in our lives, became Facebook stalkers of young men.
I wondered: is this how men feel about the voluptuous, beautiful model-like women that so many so desperately want to date? Were we the equivalent of hormonal men lusting after the younger, beautiful woman?
And it got us thinking – there are countless of books that teach men how to snag HBs (“hot babes” in pick-up lingo), taking for granted that women do not seek HMB (“hot male babes”). They’ll teach them how to behave confidently, how to raise your perceived value, how to express unique interest in a woman, how to pass “Shit Tests” (like Survival of the Shittest). In short (and especially if you’re short) – how to become that Alpha Male. But there is one thing they’ll hardly teach: How you, too, as a man, must become hotter to date that “hot woman.”
It seems that men do not feel that they have to work on their physique to attract an attractive woman. Sure, they’ll expect a woman to have a hot body, but when it comes to their own personal appearance, they think that they could suffice with a hefty pocketbook, or sculpted charm, or smooth intelligence. Well, I’m here to tell you: it’s not enough. Women want to be very attracted to their partner as well. They want passion in the bedroom. They want a body that feels good to the touch. They want a man’s biceps – and not just his brains – to communicate: “alpha male.”
I’m sure some women are different and will be happy settling for pot-bellied men – and they are most likely not HBs. But, men, if you want to date a hot woman, would you mind trying to become hotter yourself? Go to the gym. Get a trainer. Get that vein popping out of your forearm. Get those grooves in your abs. And on top of that, learn to dress. Get a stylist to bring out the best in you.
Otherwise, please, don’t expect to date a woman who could appear on the cover a magazine.
But don’t only do it for yourself. Be that heroic alpha male who would save us women from the physical mediocrity around us. Let us know, as these Olympians reminded us, that men can have excellence palpable on their bodies, for the admiration of great abs and biceps is not a shallow fetish. They are man’s achievements made visible to the naked eye, so that we know what is possible through hard work and dedication – and that is very, very attractive.